So lately I've felt a bit like I'm spinning plates - a thousand different things to do, finish, plan, execute and release - all held in a very delicate balance. My daddyo noticed that the stress was showing through - and sent me a copy of the speech he spoke at our Handfasting back in September....all I can say is I cried just as hard reading it as I did when he spoke those words to me that day.
For all who know me - and would like to know me better...and for all who know him (or do not) and would like to remember why he is such a special guy...I invite you to read ON....Here's to loving one another - unconditionally.
Well.... I never thought this day was going to come.
And I’m not referring to the year long engagement, tons
of pre-wedding parties, plus the incredible planning and detail of this event
- I mean Steff getting married.
You see, both my daughters were quite clear. No getting
married and no babies, Dad. It was their mantra.
Steff was very set on this. And frankly, once she
makes her mind up about something it’s pretty
much impossible to get her to change it.
Am I right, Lee?
She’s always been this way. She figures out what she
wants and does it. It’s quite amazing, actually. And don’t
ever try and stop her. Seriously. It’s a very bad plan.
Am I right, Bridesmaids?
How long has she been this way? Since birth.
The two’s were particularly terrible.
My first car, an ancient Corolla had no
air conditioning and in the stifling heat of August
Steff would be sitting in the car seat in the back. And she’d insist on the windows being rolled up. Why? To prove her
power. So I’d be dying of the heat and notice
her asleep in the back and gently roll the driver’s side
down just a crack. And she’d open one eye
and say, “All the way up, Dad! Roll them all the way up”. And I’d have to seal us back up. Resistance was futile. Even at that age.
Her sister Sam, she of the lovely hairstyle, is
4 years older than Steff. And her mother and I
thought there might be too much age difference
for them to play together. But that didn’t happen.
They played together brilliantly. Combing their
little ponies and removing their Barbie’s heads
so happily. Why? Because if Sam didn’t want
to play, Steff talked her into it. And talked and
talked. It’s very hard to change your sister’s
mind, isn’t it, Sam?
Naturally, with a daughter this determined we
went through the usual trappings and phases
of rebellion. The Goth period, comes to mind.
Died black, permed hair, chopped here... black
lipstick, black fingernails and black layered
lace. The little old Greek ladies of East York
loved that look - she was one of them!
Then there was the “under-cut”, a punk hairstyle
that was long on top and completely shaved
to the scalp underneath. And who shaved the
underneath part? Me. I’d shave a little bit and cringe.
And Steff would urge, more, Dad!! More!
As a result she had the most dramatic undercut
in the history of Cosburn Middle School.
Tattoos? No tattoo’s we said. Then one night
one of her school friends called at 2 in the morning.
Was it you, Nadia?
Anyway. Steff’s friend says, “Mrs. Conover, Steff
got a tattoo and she’s afraid to tell you but she
thinks it’s infected”. A quick examination proved this was true. Well, a little vitamin E cream
and some Mother’s love and... now she has
about a dozen more very striking tattoos.
But it’s not about the ink. It’s really about
Stephanie knowing her own mind, and going
out and doing things. This has lead her to all kinds
of accomplishments in life.
Her business cards say: Singer, Model, Actress.
But they should also include Event Planner, Dancer, Gourmet Chef, Advice Consultant, Painter, Carpenter, Designer, Friend, Dog Trainer, Horse Trainer and Person who’s impossible to get off the phone - I know about that part, believe me.
I’m tremendously proud of her. And I love her to bits.
And I know your mother would say to you today, Steff you look gorgeous and I love you.
Just continue being you and you’ll be happy and
successful in whatever you want from life.
Her mother really did do a great job of raising her.
OK, now I’m a wreck.
Back to the speech.
What changed Steff’s mind about marriage?
Well, he’s about 5 foot 11, dark and handsome
and just about the very sweetest guy you could
ever meet. Lee, you are amazing. Lee puts up
with a lot. And he does it with a smile.
It takes a special guy to change my daughter’s
mind. The rest of us have tried. And failed miserably.
So even though you’ve been a member of the
family for years now, I’d like to officially welcome
you and say I couldn’t be happier with Steff’s
Now lets raise our glasses to the happy couple.
To Steff and Lee. I love you.
Here’s to an awesome future.